November 2009 - Q & A Column
November 11th, 2009Dear Readers,
I still need your help. For those of you, who sent in your pictures and questions, thank you for answering the call! Please continue. Next month we will be talking about coping with the aging process of our animal friends. Then in January we’ll be discussing grieving the loss of an animal companion. So please send in your stories and questions about these and other topics for future Q & A Columns.
If you are wondering about something, there’s a good chance someone has else has the same question, too! (Sometimes your questions will appear in future newsletters based on monthly subjects. As I am not a vet, please avoid medical questions.) If you would like to be a part of this monthly column, please send your question, along with a photo of your animal companion to Sandra Larson at:
Email: sandra@sandralarson.com
Or send your information by mail to:
Sandra Larson
PO Box 1651
Little Elm, TX 75068
The advice in this column is based on Sandra’s experience and training as an animal communicator. Please avoid sending in medical questions as she is not a veterinarian and any of her suggestions are not intended to be medical in anyway. Be sure to seek proper professional advice and assistance for any of your animals’ physical or emotional needs.
Hi Sandra,
I just read your email about your monthly column and love it! I have a question for you about a feral cat that has adopted me and my back yard. I call him Mackie, the Outside Kitty (I have two strictly indoor cats, too). Mackie first started coming around about a year or more ago. At first, he was very skittish and would run away whenever he saw me move. But he seems to be coming around and now will sit just out of arm’s reach of me while I feed him. He never leaves the back yard now and he and his inside brother and sister keep company through the screen door. I have really come to love Mackie as much as I love my other two and would like to welcome him inside my house, especially since the cold months are coming. I talk to him through the screen, tell him I love him and want to take care of him and make him comfortable inside where he can play with his brother and sister, be warm in winter, cool in summer, and just be happy. He won’t let me pet him, and I’m afraid that he thinks I want to hurt him, when all I want to do is love him. I have made a little shelter for him, but he won’t get in it. I just ordered an outdoor heated kitty pad so that he’ll be warm when it’s cold. I just worry so much about him being out in the cold or in bad weather. Can you help him understand that he’ll have a wonderful and safe home inside with me and his brother and sister? I just want the best for him.
Thanks so much!
Esther
Dear Esther,
What a sweet and loving woman you are! Mackie certainly feels your love because he allows you to feed him and sits close to you. How wonderful that you built him a shelter. Try putting cat nip and some kibble in the shelter. This may draw him in.
Love is the strongest force on earth. Let me tell you a little story which happened to me recently. I was invited to talk with two cats in a home. The lady of the house told me one of her cats was like an ambassador and would come right away to visit me when I arrived. The other cat always ran away when company came over. I was made aware of this information on my drive to the house so I started sending massive amounts of love to the shy cat from my car. When I sat on the couch in the home, guess which kitten was the first to jump on my lap? Amazingly, it was the shy cat. The woman was very surprised and said, “Well, that’s different!” This sweet shy cat came into the living room, I believe in response to love. He then jumped up and down on my lap several times, allowing me to pet and communicate with him.
I’ve seen love work like this over and over again. So, continue doing exactly what you’ve been doing: Sending love and then add in a picture of you gently petting him. Allow him to come to you. Send him pictures of your warm and safe home. Let him know you have food and luxury accommodations waiting for him inside. If you’re able to leave your back door open and allow him to investigate your home without you nearby, he may just walk right in and choose to come live with you and your babies. Ultimately of course, it is his choice.
You can also have a conversation with his ‘Eternal Soul’. Ask if he has just come for a long visit or does he want to be a part of your family. Whatever happens, know you have given a beautiful gift to Mackie: either a forever home or a loving sanctuary for a little while!
Thank you for your letter and a chance to respond.
Blessings,
Sandra
Dear Sandra
My cousin Leslie Teal has told me that you are able to communicate with animals that you are not necessarily close by.
The situation is as follows:
My daughter and her husband (Tess and Mike) purchased a Doberman/Shepherd mix dog when he was 4 months old. They renamed him Murphy and he’s recently turned one. The problem is that Murphy is now running away at any opportunity. He recognizes that when he does this, the person he’s with gets angry, so he will not return. Is there any way you can find out what is driving him to behave this way? Both Tess and Mike spend a tremendous amount of time with him and treat him well. They don’t understand what’s driving him to this behavior. Any feedback you can provide would be greatly appreciated.
Sincerely,
Grand-mom of the dog- Lori Miller
Dear Lori,
Leslie Teal is a very good friend of mine! Please tell her ‘thank you’ for recommending me to you! Also, I appreciate you contacting me regarding Murphy.
I’d be happy to talk with Murphy, Tess, Mike and you too, of course. In the mean time, here are a few ideas that might help the situation.
It sounds like Murphy may be going through his adolescent rebellious stage. In running away, he may be ‘Seeking’ for more stimulation and is curious about his world. I’m guessing he’s an intelligent dog who longs to explore. There are so many smells and things out there calling for him to investigate.
He needs to be challenged. What I’m actually suggesting is that Murphy needs to have a socially acceptable way of using up his energy. It’s not easy to wear out a young dog like this, but maybe Tess and Mike could take turns walking the dog. If that’s not possible, maybe they could bring him to a Doggie Day Care a couple of times a week. Or, ask a friend to walk him at noon while they’re away. He may do well with an animal trainer who uses a positive and loving approach. The other thing they might try is agility training. Find ways for him to feel rewarded for appropriate behavior and this will hopefully lead to a happy, content dog who doesn’t feel a need to run away.
Check out the article on my web site about assigning jobs to animals. Dogs want to feel responsible for being a contribution to the ‘family pack’. Once assigned, they should send a mental picture of him doing the job. Then, they need to be sure to catch him in the act and reward him with praise and appreciation.
Giving him a correction to redirect his energy is always better than punishment. Please, gently remind them that getting angry won’t help the situation. Teaching him through positive reinforcement to come when called can actually save his life. A good rule to remember is that a dog should always only feel positive reinforcement for coming to their human person. It should be a pleasant and rewarding experience for both dog and human.
I hope some of these ideas help your daughter and son-in-law work through this difficult time with Murphy. In my experience ‘two’ seems to be the magic age for most dogs to settle down into their own skin. I’ve seen dogs develop completely different personalities after this age. Of course, every dog has their own motivations as I’ve often been surprise and amazed to discover.
Blessings,
Sandra
Hi Sandra,
Spooks my 15 lb., 14 year old cat was not putting weight on his right front leg last Friday night and it looked swollen. I took him to the Emergency Animal Clinic at 10:00 pm and they found numerous scratches on his neck and a puncture wound on that right front leg. They gave him an antibiotic and took an x-ray of the right front leg and it showed no fractures. The next morning Northwood Vet Clinic called to let me know they had received the x-ray from Emergency. They wanted to know if Spooks was doing okay. When I said I could not get Spooks to swallow the liquid antibiotic he needed twice a day, they said to bring him to the clinic so they could give him an injection that would last for two weeks.
Yes, that was much easier for both of us. Therefore, Spooks has had the medical attention he needs, but I would like to know how the injury occurred. Could you communicate with him and let me know what he shares with you? I think I know what happened, but I need to know what Spooks shares with you so that I can provide better protection in the future.
Thanks,
Jon Ann
Dear Jon Ann,
I spoke with Spooks and this is what he had to say about what happened that night:
Spooks: There was a neighbor cat that came around and I was defending my territory. We got into it. You think I look bad, you should see him! I won’t tolerate strangers being in my backyard. I won’t tolerate others unless they are a part of our family. I can be as ferocious as any dog can be!
This is what Jon Ann wrote back:
Hi Sandra,
The injury being caused by an invading cat fight makes more sense than a cat-dog fight (which I had originally suspected). Spooks started walking on the injured leg again after a one week recovery time. Spooks has two very long fangs that protrude over his lower lips. When he becomes angry and opens his mouth to hiss he looks like Dracula!
Jon Ann
Hi Sandra,
Here’s our question:
Jack has been putting on weight, more so than ever before. I don’t want him to get so heavy that he has trouble living freely. He’s been eating some of Sallie’s food which is much healthier and probably richer. In the past it has hurt his stomach. Perhaps he’s transitioning to a healthier diet, and eventually his weight will go back down. But I want to check in with him and see what’s REALLY going on. He also doesn’t seem to like his in-home grass plant much anymore, either, which stresses me a bit. His photo is attached from just month ago.
Sometimes I get so scared about finances that I make a poor decision to PONDER giving up almost everything - like if we had to move into a 1-bedroom apt. And when I do that, I consider what I would do with Jack & Sallie. I’m concerned the cats may feel insecure because of that.
Since you’re talking to Jack anyway, could you assure him & Sallie that I do value them and it’s only fear gripping me. You can remind them that I also PONDER what if Michael suddenly died, and they are certain that I don’t have ANY real intention of that really coming to pass
Love ya!
Vicki, Michael, Jack and Sallie
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Dear Vicki,
I spoke with Jack and Sallie, well mostly Jack and this is what he had to say:
Sandra: Hello Jack. This is your buddy Sandra. I’m calling you. Your human Mom, Vicki has asked me to talk with you. She says that you’ve got some things going on with maybe gaining some weight right now.
Jack: Well it’s about time! I’ve been waiting to talk with you for a really long time and my Mom’s been waiting for it too!
Sandra: I know that sweetheart and I’m so sorry. I’ve just been having all kinds of exciting things happen.
Jack: I’ve been a little bored lately and you know that boredom is actually a feeling of restriction. Michael’s been busy and Vicki’s been busy, too. I guess I’ve felt a little bit left out and not very stimulated right now. So, I would really like someone to play with me more. So, I’ve kind of been soaking my sorrows with extra food and kind of trying to numb myself a little bit. I know humans do this a lot so I thought I would try it too.
Sandra: Here’s the thing Jack, when you do that and you eat too much, (and I know this because I do this sometimes, too.) it creates a perpetuation of a negative cycle for you. When you start eating and you don’t get exercise, then you eat some more. Then play time becomes more and more uncomfortable. So, I’m going to talk to Vicki and Michael. I’m going to encourage them to help you play more and maybe to take away some of the excess food you’ve been getting lately so that you won’t be so tempted. Is that alright sweetheart?
Jack: Yep, Yep! I do say so!
Sandra: I love you Jack! I think you are amazing! What about the indoor grass plant that you don’t like anymore?
Jack: I’m just bored. I’m kind of bored with everything right now! I’d like something that would give me a little more excitement! Maybe a new green grass plant would be more exciting or grow some cat nip. Something like that! I just need some new stimulation: some new toys and I need some more fun going on! I would like for people to spend more time with me.
Sandra: Alright! Jack, I’m going to call for Sallie here, too. Your Mom tells me that she’s been having some worried thoughts.
Jack: Yes, she has. And when she worries, one of the things I’ve learned to do is eat more to give me a protection from her worry because I don’t want to worry. I also think that I have to store up on food because what if we don’t have enough.
Sandra: Here’s the thing Jack. Vicki goes through times when she is afraid. As humans we do that sometimes.
Jack: Doesn’t she understand everything’s going to be okay? Everything’s going to work out for her, Michael, Sallie and me.
Sandra: Yes! I’m going to tell her that everything is going to work out and that she needs to see that situation working out well, Miss Sallie, too. I know Sallie you worry a little more like your Mom. So, we will ask Vicki to choose to think thoughts of everything working out and to ask those worry thoughts to stop. Okay! I love you. And, Miss Sallie girl, if you have any messages for your Mom, let me know. You are such good cats. You are my dear friends, my long distance friends but definitely my good friends and I love you both!
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